Hugs, cuddles and non-sexual touch
Cuddles are important
We are hardwired for connection and touch and yet, many of us are touch deprived.
Physical human contact is vital to our well being. A loving, tender, proper up-close cuddle can change our mood, make us feel seen and can bring us back to our bodies and heart.
On some level we all know this, and yet asking for a helping hand or a cuddle can be anxiety inducing for many and terrifying for some. It is too risky. What if they say no?
Hugs or Sex?
I also wonder how many people find it easier to initiate sex than they do in asking for a hug, a little hair stroking or to have a belly rub.
Is there an expectation to do more? A belief that it’s not real intimacy? That you ‘should’ be being sexual.
When sex is not on offer. Knowing that this kind of touch is all that is offered, needed or expected can be a new experience for many. Often it is a precursor to something else, something more sensual or sexual.
There are health benefits too. When we embrace someone, our bodies release a hormone called oxytocin. It is thought that oxytocin can be calming and reduce stress, as well as help relieve pain. It is regarded as one of the feel good chemicals.
I am offering hugs, cuddles, hand holding, stroking and non-sexual touch.
It might involve a bit of chat. Maybe you want to simply be held and breathe together. You might even want me to read you a chapter of a favourite book or listen to an audio book together.
Regardless of your gender, sexual preferences, relationship status you are welcome.
If this appeals to you, get in touch for a free 15 minute clarity call to discuss your first session by completing the clarity call form.